Trick-or-Treating Disappearing?

It was Halloween and for the past few weeks I haven’t known my ATM pin number.  I took myself to the bank to get it reset. I walked into the branch and saw Halloween decorations everywhere.  The bank tellers wore pirate costumes and there were bowls of candy on the counters. A pirate-teller was finishing a transaction with a woman and they were talking about what there is to do in Twentynine Palms for Halloween.  The woman said she was new to town.

“Well, last year my kids went trick-or-treating around the neighborhood but we had maybe a 50% success rate” I said.  Many of the houses were dark and some of them were obviously at home but ignored the doorbell. It was rather frustrating.  It’s Halloween,darn it, participate!

“I think a lot of them were going to the activities at local churches” I said.

“Oh yeah, the trunk-or-treats are pretty popular” another pirate-teller lady said as she opened another window to help me with my forgotten ATM pin.

“It’s so sad that it seems trick-or-treating is disappearing” continued my Pirate-Teller,  “I remember when parents would stay home handing out candy and the kids out went around the neighborhood trick-or-treating.   You can’t do that anymore – it’s just not safe to leave your kids alone like that.”

I was impressed with her trick-or-treating memories.  My Pirate-Teller looked to be around my age and I didn’t have the same experience when I was a kid when I trick-or-treated in southern California.  My parents never let me go out with a bunch of other kids. There was always someone’s parent with us.

“Did you grow up here in Twentynine?” I asked.

“I grew up in Washington” my Pirate-Teller replied.

I was disappointed that she wasn’t from Twentynine Palms.  It would have been interesting to know what trick-or-treating was like in Twentynine Palms maybe 20-30 years ago.  

Is trick-or-treating disappearing in Twentynine Palms?  We’ve lived in two different neighborhoods here and the first neighborhood saw zero trick-or-treaters.  Zero. When we took our small children to trick-or-treat, neighbor after neighbor said they “didn’t buy no candy” and we left empty handed.  I resisted the temptation to deliver the “tricks” when we got no “treats.” We ended up sneaking onto the base housing by Luckie Park to get good trick-or-treating in.

In our current neighborhood we got our first trick-or-treaters.  It was neat to hear the clatter of people coming to the door and knocking or ringing our doorbell.  

“Trick-or-treat!” a chorus of little voices would say.

There weren’t a lot of people but it was enough for me to run out of candy.  We shut off the porch lights and turned off all the lights in the front of the house.  I was surprised when the doorbell rang. My husband and I exchanged guilty looks. This was the first time we ever pretended we weren’t home on Halloween.

The next morning I went outside and saw that the last group that we pretended we weren’t home with had destroyed the jack-o-lanterns that my kids were so proud of.  I swept away the remnants of the pumpkins angry and bewildered that someone would do such a thing,. I was tempted before to dish out the “tricks” but to actually carry them out?

We had a few trick-or-treaters this year and they all came after 7pm.  I made sure I had plenty of candy so children wouldn’t have to carry out the “tricks” if I didn’t have the “treats.”  Some of the kids coming up the walk were driven by their parents. They’d stop the car to let out the kids when they saw a lit house.  I also had a group of kids come by that I hoped this would be their last Halloween trick-or-treating. Their voices weren’t little when they said “Trick-or-treat” and it was more a statement and not an exclamation.  

My husband took our kids around our neighborhood to those houses we knew and then went over to a housing development near our home.  Our young neighbor asked my son if he was going to base to trick-or-treat as he hopped into the car in his costume. People seem to opt for base housing where the homes are closer together and there are sidewalks or they head over to the church trunk-or-treats.  The City of Twentynine Palms offered a Halloween Fun Fest with games, candy, and a haunted house. They advertised it as a “Safer alternative to traditional door-to-door trick or treating.”

Trick or treating is not disappearing in Twentynine Palms, it’s just not happening around my neighborhood.  The idea of going door-to-door and getting treats on Halloween is very much alive in Twentynine Palms. It’s just not happening as much in the neighborhoods like mine where the houses are spread out and there are no street lights or sidewalks.  I will still make sure that I have plenty of candy, just in case.